Like Me The Way I Am

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Written by: Lubna Shahid (on January 14, 2008 - 01:24 PM)

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One day in university, I was sitting with a good friend of mine when suddenly he perked up and said to me; “there she is!” I looked at the fast retreating figure crossing the lawn and I saw nothing special, she was simple and plain and her tomboyish style had nothing feminine in it. “I like that girl”, his thin face was vibrant with emotions. Two seconds ago, he was explaining the technical aspect of his project that he would make in his senior year and an instant later he confessed his feelings for some girl. Like a shallow person, I asked why. His reply made me realize how lucky that girl is. How many girls can claim that a guy like her for her intelligence, her smartness and because of her originality and not because of her looks or the way she dresses and acting dumb (I really don’t see how batting your eye lashes or giggling can make you look anything else besides dumb). I already respect that person a lot for his ability of carrying intelligent conversations and making sound conclusions but now I regard him a nice person because he doesn't go for the looks. 

Later that day, as I was trying to sooth my infected eye in the dark hidden corner of auditorium, a girl approached me asking me how to shed few extra pounds she gained and I jokingly asked, “why? Have you fallen for someone?” her reply was very serious, “why would I want to change myself for someone? I hope a guy will like me the way I am and not because how slim I am. I think it’s a fraud to change yourself for someone because that not real you you’re showing to him. You’re actually manipulating him into liking you and that’s totally below the belt”, she than started to look uncomfortable and blurted out that she knew that’s weird. I think it was not. I think the only reason to change yourself is that that’s what you really want and not that you want to look good in the eyes of someone else.

I think those people are extremely lucky who find people who love them for who they really are, face and financial worth are nothing compared to what a person is truly inside in their eyes. I believe those people are one of those rare ones who find real happiness even in this materialistic world.

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